If you have not read "7 habits" yet, it can be time to read it now.
I noticed that you can't or shouldn't read until you're ready. Let me tell you this: I saw him in 1993 when I was 20. If I had read it when I was 19, I would have received nothing of it. To be honest, when I read it, it is really an answer to my prayers.
There are concepts in this book, which are so powerful that even reading only (without consciously, implement action) changed how I live.
For example, I continually myself comparing what had happened in my life that I had read only. If someone says something offensive to me, my feeling original would be angry, but in the wake of this thinking comes something that I read it in 7 habits. I would think, "Hey!" Which reminds me when Covey wrote on _. "Time thinking has disappeared, the negative situation.
Thinking became much pleasure!
Even the first 3 habits were enough to get me incredibly excited about the interaction with others. You could live 1000 years and find these concepts your own.
4Th habit has been my favorite. It is called "first Seek as to understand, then to be understood. I wish that I had this more... now that I am married! But at the time, this helped me to become a very good "President." I could talk to people and help them not "Walnut psychological air" from me. Want to be understood. If you argue your point all the time, nobody feels understood and ideas are more difficult to put into action. ANY IDIOT CAN ARGUE! Everyone seems to place great importance on the debate... and be able to destroy other views with your logic and your spirit.
But this is not effective. As I said: any idiot can enforce. Not 1 in 1000 people can really consider notice someone like the person. Still less can really stop and say: "I am positive I am 110% right and that the other person is false, but who knows?" Maybe I'm wrong. Let me take into account their point and listen to what they should express. "Now it's real strength.
Once again, I shared it with someone Wilkinson. They started shouting after me and that I was wrong and that if you know you are right, you standing up for yourself and prove another person is wrong. With a smile on my face, I replied, "maybe you're right." Laughing out loud! They did not even pick up on the fact that I had everything done for them that I am advocating.
It is surprising that happens to people when you state to them what you think is the point that they are trying to do. You'll end up many of your phrases beginning with: "... what you say is so." [...]". Once you begin to show the person that you're step be submitted, their backs go the urgency in drops their voice. They calm down. and then they listen to your point without fighting.
As the Covey explains, the best way to influence others... is to be influenced.
This is a good book and it is filled with the principles that will help you in all your dealings, but I find that you need to be able your life to action. It will work much if you can practise every day in a setting such as:-a member of the family dealing with difficult situations - a manager - a vendor... .or anyone who must deal with people on a daily basis. If you feel a strong need to know how to react more effectively with others, perhaps you're ready to book now.
Review of the book the 7 habits of highly effective people
